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In turbulent times we ask ourselves if we can stay present, make good choices and feel free. We may find ourselves struggling, feeling angry, scared, stressed and powerless in the midst of it all. We understand the concept of breakdown/breakthrough yet sometimes find it challenging to stay fully present through the ups and downs. We dream about freedom, talk about it, have fleeting moments of it but are not sure how to make it a sustainable experience. We ask ourselves if freedom is it even possible?

At the same time science is proving the oneness of us all, that we are not separate from anyone, anything or our source. There is the growing awareness that what we experience on our inside is affecting everything we experience on the outside. We are coming to realize that we are shaping our lives by how we think, feel and behave. We are also learning that all the insights, resolutions and answers we want are available to us when we stay connected with ourselves and source. What if we knew that what we are cultivating on the inside is what we are realizing on our outside? What if we knew that freedom is not dependent on anyone or anything on the outside? Take a deep breath and ask the powerful question what is the nature of experiencing freedom from my inside out?

Freedom from the inside out is NOT about looking for a way out or trying to fix ourselves. It is an undoing while engaging in empowering ways to live our lives. It is not about needing to be happy or in a state of equanimity at all times. It is about knowing that we can always choose to make a shift. It is not about trying to get perfect, right and done nor focusing on what seems wrong with us and trying to fix it.

Freedom from the inside out IS about knowing that the relationship we cultivate on our inside is being realized on our outside. it takes the courage to do what many people are not even willing to talk about for fear that that their lives will fall apart. It is about letting go of the patterns of tension and constriction that we use to hold back. It is about awareness of our perspectives, thoughts and emotions as we learn to embrace, interact and release them. It is the willingness to keep our energy in motion as we practice new ways of thinking, feeling and behaving. It requires letting go of having a certain outcome, trusting that the most beneficial experiences will manifest in all their perfect ways. It is about seeking and discovering the easiest and most fun ways to dissolve, resolve and evolve whatever is holding us back.

We are coming to realize that the more responsibility we take the more freedom is available to us. We recognize that everything appearing in our lives is happening in it’s perfect timing. We realize that our wants and needs are part of the pulse of evolution that is propelling us forward. We know that our source wants the very best for us and is guiding our lives. We begin to see ourselves in new and expanding ways while empowered to share our gifts. We recognize that we are being a catalyst for the changes we want to see in our world. Once we get the hang of how this works it propels us to move forward and never go back!

A value process for connecting with ourselves…

Gather four pillows. Designate each pillow as a specific aspect of yourself. One pillow for the aspect that guides you. The remaining pillows represent emotions, heart and body. Begin a dialogue with each aspect. You may  find that your emotions are angry about how often you avoid, deny and control them. They may want to scream, cry and hit the pillow in anger about feeling abandoned, imprisoned and denied by you. You can respond by telling them your side of the story. Continue interacting, feeling and expressing.  Let each aspect interact and express in a similar way. Allow them to know the changes you will make.

As your own best guide you are empowering yourself to see the internal environment you have been creating. With a new sense of clarity you can guide all aspects of yourself in a new and expansive way. You can engage in creating safety, unconditional love and freedom from your inside out.

Everything becomes a map to freedom, with wonderful gifts that can guide you. 

I invite you to join in on my new online course, Freedom From The Inside Out. 

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To your freedom,

“If you do not know how to handle the suffering in you then you cannot help another person” Thich Nhat Hanh

In a world with so much suffering we do our best to be compassionate as part of the resolution. Compassion is seeing a living being suffering and feeling motivated to help them. While doing our best to be of help we sometimes take on the suffering inside ourselves. We constrict our emotions, bodies, minds and hearts. In doing this we lose our ability to be fully present with whatever the situation. It makes us wonder if we are being part of the resolution or part of the problem?

A perfect example of this is Caroline, a sixty year old woman who was very ill and learning how to be at peace with her experience. Her friend, Emily, came to see her and panicked when she saw her condition. Emily’s intent had been to be compassionate and supportive. Unfortunately, her reaction was to constrict with guilt for not having come sooner. Caroline tried to soothe and console her and soon felt her energy fading. She politely told Emily that she needed to be alone now. What might have happened if Emily had kept her focus on breathing, staying connected and tuning into what her friend was really wanting? What if she had been present to be part of the resolution rather than being part of the problem?

Some tips on what we can do if we find ourselves slipping out of being present and part of the resolution…

• Reconnect with ourselves and our source. Breathe and allow any insights on appropriate actions we can take in the situation.

• Move, breathe and vibrate. Release any constriction of our emotional, physical and mental energy. Let go of trying to control the situation as we breathe, vibrate and move into a state that allows us to tune into what is really happening. Opening a soothing safe space for the person suffering to relax and let go into their experience.

• Love ourselves no matter what the evidence! No matter what the condition we are seeing, talk to ourselves in ways that support us in embracing our experience so we can be present with calm and assertive energy.

• Ask ourselves what is the nature experiencing true compassion?

• Practice having compassion for ourselves. When we learn to accept and reframe our own experiences we can support others to do the the same.

• Establish healthy boundaries. There is always the temptation to think we have to save someone even if we feel that it is not ours to do. The suffering person knows when we really do not want to be there for them. If we override our intuition we end up not being as effective as we could be. It is best to go where we feel inspired, motivated and want to help.

• Remember that we are human. We are all in an evolutionary process of exploring ways to think, feel and behave in ways that we can support the end the suffering in the world.

• Acknowledge and embrace the fact that no-one really knows what another person is really experiencing.

• Vibrate any healthy shame. We all have times when we find ourselves making poor choices in a situation. These are opportunities to love ourselves no matter what the evidence, make new choices and avoid the temptation to contract in shame.

• Embracing any self pity. Practice letting go of our own self pity. Remember we are the ones that put us in whatever pit we are in and so did they. A good exercise is pretending to cry while repeating “poor me, poor me, poor me” until we find ourselves laughing and remembering the profound miracle that we are even alive.

• Cultivate the ability to be compassionate about differences. Dr. Don Beck, a leading global authority and author of Spiral Dynamics, shows us how and why people are different in the way they make decisions, respond to different situations, hold onto values and make changes. This includes everything from different life stages, lines of development and levels of consciousness. Another great source is Hudson and Riso’s book, The Wisdom of the Enneagram, on how to be compassionate and supportive of many different personality styles.

• The best thing we can do is remember that when our vibration rises to spiritual expression we embody those human qualities that enable us to do what is good and right for ourselves and others.  All of these qualities are connected in thought and deed. They are widely valued virtues found in every religion, culture and community.

To being the power of true compassion,