Shifting Our Perception About Addiction

Throughout history addiction has been perceived in many ways. Today we refer to addiction as a habitual misuse of physical substances, thought processes and behaviors. It is often perceived with the stigma of sickness, weakness and lack of morality.

People are now understanding that labeling, shaming and humiliating is the last thing someone needs to return to wellness. With all of our best intentions, most of us look for ways to escape from stress, anxiety and worry. We want to feel happy, relaxed and relational. We want to be loving fun people who feel good about life. Culture even goes so far as to promote a “happy hour” as a time for letting go and feeling good. If we think we need a “happy hour” what does it mean about the rest of the hours in the the day?

Addictions stem from desire to fix the uncomfortable conditions in life, thus the expression getting a “fix”. We try to fix ourselves by “using” whatever seems to soothe the following conditions

  • Anxiety
  • Worry
  • Disconnected
  • Isolated and alone
  • Resentment
  • Self rejection
  • Trying to fix ourselves
  • Exhaustion
  • Emotional drama
  • Trying to be successful
  • Rebellion
  • Being critical of ourselves
  • Trying to stay in control
  • Obsessive thinking

Not only do these habits fail to create the experiences we want, they also are at the core of physical stress and hormonal imbalance in our bodies.

The following is list of ways we can shift our perception and choices around addiction:

• Loving ourselves no matter what the evidence. When we make mistakes we can choose to perceive them as “mis-takes” that we can learn from. We can let go of the “shoulds” in our lives and al- low ourselves to do the things we feel motivated and inspired to do.

• Making a decision. Once decide to free ourselves from addiction, the universe ignites to send us everything we want and need to make the changes we want.

• Reconnecting with our source. Discovering that resolution is not about trying to control or fix ourselves. It is about disengaging addictive control and allowing our loving source to guide and support us.

• Releasing fixation in our bodies. Noticing when we are trying to fix ourselves by constricting our breathe and bodies. Dancing, walking and expressing in fun and safe ways allows our energy to circulate and be free.

• Embracing and admitting what we have been doing opens the doors (admits us) to the life we want. Holly Witikar, creator of Hip Sobriety, says : “Sobriety is not just about quitting alcohol and drugs. It’s about getting after your best life and having everything you ever dreamed of. ”

• Discovering the nature of our essential selves. Wellness, freedom !and personal power are natural to us as human beings.

• Clarity about the difference between unhealthy and healthy shame. Unhealthy shame is the feeling that there is something es- sentially bad and wrong about us. Healthy shame is the feeling of knowing that the choices we are making are not the most beneficial choices for ourselves and everyone else involved.

• Understanding there is no perfect solution for everyone. We each have a unique and beautiful path. We can follow it by using our personal guidance system that connects us to our source with the greater intelligence.

• Changing beliefs and perceptions. A common belief not often talked about its: “If I admit and feel the powerlessness I am expe- riencing, I might discover that I am really powerless. So I better hold onto the any hope that I have so at least I have hope that I can be powerful.” We can change this belief by embracing, feeling and vibrating any powerlessness we feel and allowing the truth of powerful creator we are.

• Releasing the assumption that if we are sober we will not have a fun social life. The truth of the matter is that being sober and present attracts the kind of healthy empowered people we have al- !ways wanted to meet and be friends with.

• Allowing withdrawal from the addictive control may feel scary and uncomfortable at first. Hang in there! Walk, dance, sing and whatever you need to do to keep your energy moving and in alignment with your intent. Watch and feel your personal powercome flooding back in!

• Being willing to say “I don’t know”. Trust that as you keep letting go, the answers and solutions you want and need will come streaming in.
• Releasing ourselves from other people’s expectations. Exploring what motivates, inspires and makes us feel happy and alive.

• Creating relationships that are aligned with our intent. Giving ourselves the love and support of others who understand why we are making new choices and want to join us in being sober and present.
• Cultivating positive self talk. “I am making new choices and allowing the love, presence and personal power that is mine”.

To the power of sobriety,


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