Think about it…

February 23, 2014


One of the most powerful quotes that I know is from Ralph Waldo Emerson:

” Life consists of what a person is thinking about all day.”

Have you ever found yourself saying: What was I thinking!!!??

Well, that’s a really good question! Exactly what are you thinking? Your willingness to be with that question gives you the power to shape your life!

Now ask yourself this question:

What is the nature of experiencing thinking that creates the the most beneficial, fun, loving, empowered, free and abundant experiences possible?

Remember, powerful questions give powerful answers. As soon as you ask a question something inside of you starts to shift immediately. Your questions are catalysts that set the universe in motion to respond to you.

If you use your thinking wisely, you can craft you questions in such a way that the answers come as the bodily felt sense of having the experience that you want.

For instance, if you ask the questions like “What is wrong with me”, then guess what answers you get? All the things that you think are wrong with you!

And what would have happened though if you had asked this question, “What is the nature of experiencing the perfection of my being? What experience would you have as the answer to that question? It would be the bodily felt experience of the perfection of your being!

That’s a simple example of  how getting clear on what you’re thinking can change your life forever!

So, notice your thinking right now. Can you identify anything that is already shifting just by asking those questions related to the quality of your thinking?

You may be wondering: “What have I been thinking?!!!?”  Good question to be asking yourself frequesntly.

What you’ve been thinking is collection of thoughts that you’ve gathered along the way.. And like most people, some of your thought may have developed into the patterns, tendencies, and the habits that are shaping how you perceive, respond, and make choices.

Each person has their own unique way of thinking about how to approach life and how they perceive things…and is commonly called a “mindset”. Getting clear on this is a powerful awareness, because your mindset affects everything in your life including who you think you are…and what you think you deserve

. Here’s a example of two different mindsets:   Imagine that someone just got mad at you for something that you said… And follow the thought of how your experience would be if you responded with:

Mindset #1:

  • No matter what I say, it’s never enough.
  • I’m not very good at communicating, so I might as well give up.
  • I’m really not a good enough person
  • There must be something wrong with me
  • I’m a loser and should just forget about ever having any friends.
  • She hates me, so I might as well leave and never come come back
 Mindset #2
  • Wow, I didn’t know that I was having that effect!
  • I wonder what mad her to be so mad?
  • I care about my relationships, so I’ll take a deep breathe and commit to resolution.
  • I admit that I was doing something provoking by not being very present for what was happening.
  • I’ll learn from this experience.
  • Take another deep breathe.
  • I’m ready to go back now…I’ll go back and apologize… and commit to staying more present and communicating more clearly.
Which of these mindsets you think works best for you?
You may be thinking, well Mindset #2 of course!
Some people, however, want to stick to a more self-rejecting mindset… because they’re comfortable staying with what they know and it has become  a habit that they don’t want to let go of.

Neither of the choices are right or wrong.

No matter how confused or powerless you might be feel about your thinking… you have the ability to change it!

Start making a list somewhere… jot your thoughts down.

  • Even if you’ve done this exercise before, do it again!
  • When it comes to your thinking, there’s always plenty of room to be surprised at how different levels of thinking are still affecting your life!
  • See if you notice any patterns emerging from what you have written down.
  • These patterns are showing you the map that you’ve been using.
  • These maps have been shaping the perception, attitudes , and beliefs that you use to guide your life.
The important questions to ask:
  • Is my mindset working?
  • Is my thinking giving me the life that I’m really wanting?”

Recognize any of these thoughts?

  • I never  seem to be able to do enough
  • There are so many things that I ‘should” be doing
  • I just can’t seem to get it  perfect and”right”
  • I need compare myself to others to find out how to do my life
  • I’ve got to keep re-thinking my  past to remember why I feel so unworthy and bad
  • These’s so much that I don’t have
  • What’s wrong with me? Whatever it is, I feel powerless to fix it
  • I need to figure out who is right or who is wrong
  • There are so my reasons that I can’t have and do what I want
Keep going! What kind of thinking do you do about:

  • Your life
  • Yourself
  • Other people
  • What’s happening in the world

What effect is your thinking having?

What effect do you want to be having?

Clarity about your thinking brings power!

Here’s an example of a woman who had a in shift in her thinking. She made this video as a way to empower people with what she learned ( Jill Boyte, A Stroke of Insight):

NOTICE your thinking right now. What impact did these last few moments of watching a video have on your thinking? Thanks for hanging in here! And congratulations on your willingness to expand your awareness! Now on to the next phase!

Okay, let’s go on with some ideas on how to start restructuring your thoughts and changing your thinking:

Have you ever had at a moment when you were trying to change your thinking and someone chimed in and says, “Oh, that’s easy…just let go of  those old “negative” thoughts and starting thinking “positive” ones!

Sounds like a great idea, right? But it doesn’t always seem to work that easily.

That’s because your thoughts and beliefs are often  anchored by what I call “stuck energy”. This is energy inside you that is stuck, not circulating and moving. If that energy doesn’t start moving, no matter how hard you try, the same stinking thinking will rise to the surface again!

To better understand what I mean: Take a deep breathe in and hold it…hold it ….hold it….hold it…don’t let it go yet! Now tighten up  your fists and the rest of your body…squeeze, squeeze….squeeze! This is what I mean by uptight…literally tightening up! NOTICE: What’s happening to the clearness of your thinking?

NOW RELAX:  Let it go…and take a few deep breathes. SHAKE IT ALL OUT: And notice how you feel. Feel the relief of oxygen flowing back thru your veins…filling yourself up with what you need to be alive.

Holding your breathe and tightening up your body like this… is the same thing that happens when you contract around your heart and and your breathing becomes shallow. That very tightening at times during the day creates to lack of circulation in your body. Your body  tries to alert you to danger…you start to feel uncomfortable, stressed, and un-easy…an uneasiness that will keep getting louder until you have the symptoms of disease.

NOW TRY IT ONE MORE TIME: Take a deep breathe and hold it… with everything that I just said in mind. Hold it, hold it, tighten up your body…do it as long as you can to notice what happens to your thinking and everything else in your body. And when you are ready…. LET IT GO! RELAX, SHAKE IT OUT!

What’s amazing is, not only does it feel great when you finally let go, your beliefs or thoughts are free to let go with you! You’ve shaken up stuck energy and made space for a change! Believe me, if you practice the concepts of what I just shared with you… and learn how to vibrate and shake out old stuck energy , I promise you that you will have the fastest leap in your thinking that you’ve ever had!

Now go shake it all out!

Now that you know how to make space for a change, it’s time to start take some more action. For example, think about the word “success”…write down what thoughts come to mind. Identify any patterns, attitudes or mindsets that you find. Some mindsets around success might include:

  • Success isn’t for everyone, it is just for people who went to college,,,and I didn’t go to college, so it means that I can never be successful.
  • Success makes you self important and unlikeable…and I’d rather be a nice person and have friends and family so I have no interest in being successful.
  • Success requires sacrifice and not having time with your family, so I have no interest in it.
  • Success is fleeting, so no use chasing it.
To change those beliefs and release that mindset:
  • shake it all out and let them go.
  • Then take a deep breathe and start to change the way you were thinking.
  • As you do this, let your self imagine how your life would be with your new way of thinking.
  • Get into the bodily felt sense of how you want that to be.
You may want your new experience to be:
  • Success is wonderful and it is allowing me to give and receive more with others.
  • Success is fun, easy, abundant and empowering.
  • Success is joyous and I share it with my loved ones, my friends and the world.
  • Success is feeling total alive and healthy
  • Success is available to anyone who is willing to take full responsibility for their life.
  • Anyone can be successful if they have the right mindset.
And I encourage you to look at the beliefs that were talked about in the video you watched in Key #1 (Lynn Twist on the Soul of Money).
  • People are selfish and greedy
  • More is better
  • There’s not enough to go around, so I need get it as fast as you can before somebody else gets it
  • If I give freely then there won’t be enough left for me
  • If I receive what I need, am I’ll be bad because have I taken something away from someone else.
  • If I can keep getting more and more then I can assure that I will always be happy.
 Here’s a good way to get clear about any beliefs you have about giving and receiving…ask yourself these questions:

  • What if I give and there isn’t enough left for me?
  • If I receive what I need and am fulfilled, am I bad because have I taken something away from someone else?
  • I’d like to give more but I just don’t have time
  • I don’t think people would want what I have to offer.
  • What I have to give isn’t good enough.
  • I would feel embarrassed and not liked if I gave something and they didn’t like it
  • I would feel rejected if they didn’t take it and then not trust myself any more
  • If I give, I will have to give back and I don’t have enough time and energy.
  • If I give I might not have enough for myself…and not survive.
  • I know I get uncomfortable when someone gives me something that I don’t like, so it’s best not to give anyone anything.
  • If I give, then it just gets used up and I have to give again…and I just don’t have the energy to do that
If you want to change any of these ways of thinking, you know what to do!
Keep remembering:  You can have all the knowledge, experience and tools available, but without choosing the appropriate thinking, you will never realize your full potential.
Imagine how the changing all these belief systems will change your life! Some tips to Remember:

  • There’s no use in comparing yourself to anyone else…because the only person you can ever be is YOU…which is fantastic because it’s the easiest thing for you to do!
  • If you think you can, then you can…if you think you can’t, then you can’t.
  • How can you ask others to believe in you if you don’t even believe in yourself?
  • How can you expect others to love and trust you, if you don’t love and trust yourself?
  • If you keep thinking about what you don’t want, that’s what you get. If you keep thinking about what you do want, that’s what you get!
If you’ve gotten this far on the road to getting clear on your thinking, congratulations.
Please leave any comments, questions or ideas that you have…your comments can have impact!
To the freedom that your thinking can give you,

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