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Shifting Our Perception About Addiction

November 22, 2016


Throughout history addiction has been perceived in many ways. Today we refer to addiction as a habitual misuse of physical substances, thought processes and behaviors. It is often perceived with the stigma of sickness, weakness and lack of morality.

People are now understanding that labeling, shaming and humiliating is the last thing someone needs to return to wellness. With all of our best intentions, most of us look for ways to escape from stress, anxiety and worry. We want to feel happy, relaxed and relational. We want to be loving fun people who feel good about life. Culture even goes so far as to promote a “happy hour” as a time for letting go and feeling good. If we think we need a “happy hour” what does it mean about the rest of the hours in the the day?

Addictions stem from desire to fix the uncomfortable conditions in life, thus the expression getting a “fix”. We try to fix ourselves by “using” whatever seems to soothe the following conditions

  • Anxiety
  • Worry
  • Disconnected
  • Isolated and alone
  • Resentment
  • Self rejection
  • Trying to fix ourselves
  • Exhaustion
  • Emotional drama
  • Trying to be successful
  • Rebellion
  • Being critical of ourselves
  • Trying to stay in control
  • Obsessive thinking

Not only do these habits fail to create the experiences we want, they also are at the core of physical stress and hormonal imbalance in our bodies.

The following is list of ways we can shift our perception and choices around addiction:

• Loving ourselves no matter what the evidence. When we make mistakes we can choose to perceive them as “mis-takes” that we can learn from. We can let go of the “shoulds” in our lives and al- low ourselves to do the things we feel motivated and inspired to do.

• Making a decision. Once decide to free ourselves from addiction, the universe ignites to send us everything we want and need to make the changes we want.

• Reconnecting with our source. Discovering that resolution is not about trying to control or fix ourselves. It is about disengaging addictive control and allowing our loving source to guide and support us.

• Releasing fixation in our bodies. Noticing when we are trying to fix ourselves by constricting our breathe and bodies. Dancing, walking and expressing in fun and safe ways allows our energy to circulate and be free.

• Embracing and admitting what we have been doing opens the doors (admits us) to the life we want. Holly Witikar, creator of Hip Sobriety, says : “Sobriety is not just about quitting alcohol and drugs. It’s about getting after your best life and having everything you ever dreamed of. ”

• Discovering the nature of our essential selves. Wellness, freedom !and personal power are natural to us as human beings.

• Clarity about the difference between unhealthy and healthy shame. Unhealthy shame is the feeling that there is something es- sentially bad and wrong about us. Healthy shame is the feeling of knowing that the choices we are making are not the most beneficial choices for ourselves and everyone else involved.

• Understanding there is no perfect solution for everyone. We each have a unique and beautiful path. We can follow it by using our personal guidance system that connects us to our source with the greater intelligence.

• Changing beliefs and perceptions. A common belief not often talked about its: “If I admit and feel the powerlessness I am expe- riencing, I might discover that I am really powerless. So I better hold onto the any hope that I have so at least I have hope that I can be powerful.” We can change this belief by embracing, feeling and vibrating any powerlessness we feel and allowing the truth of powerful creator we are.

• Releasing the assumption that if we are sober we will not have a fun social life. The truth of the matter is that being sober and present attracts the kind of healthy empowered people we have al- !ways wanted to meet and be friends with.

• Allowing withdrawal from the addictive control may feel scary and uncomfortable at first. Hang in there! Walk, dance, sing and whatever you need to do to keep your energy moving and in alignment with your intent. Watch and feel your personal powercome flooding back in!

• Being willing to say “I don’t know”. Trust that as you keep letting go, the answers and solutions you want and need will come streaming in.
• Releasing ourselves from other people’s expectations. Exploring what motivates, inspires and makes us feel happy and alive.

• Creating relationships that are aligned with our intent. Giving ourselves the love and support of others who understand why we are making new choices and want to join us in being sober and present.
• Cultivating positive self talk. “I am making new choices and allowing the love, presence and personal power that is mine”.

To the power of sobriety,


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The Currency of Affluence

October 16, 2016


Throughout history, humans have strived for affluence, most often by accumulating money or wealth. Currency has been referred to as medium of exchange like gold, bank notes, or other physical things that people place value on. Today much of our currency is experienced as a digital movement going back and forth with no intrinsic value. The currency of affluence can also be perceived as a current of dreamstime_m_15643706income-ing energy moving through us. A current of incoming affluence coming directly from our connection with the source that creates and sustains us.

Some people experience affluence as a natural state of being. Others spend their lives hoping and dreaming that affluence will someday happen to them. They work hard and assume that lacking must be their lot in life. They often wonder if the affluent are hoarding some kind of secret they will never have access to. People who experience lacking sometimes envy, judge and assume that affluent people are crooked, selfish people that take all the wealth that should to be divided up with all the others on our planet.

Meanwhile, we all are witnessing flowers, trees, babies, technology and other forms of manifestation bursting into life around us. We ponder the nature of the source that creates us all and wonder how to harness that power. We want to experience that flow of affluence in our own lives. A question might be, “What is the nature of experiencing ourselves free of any holding back from the currency of affluence that available to us?”

By asking these questions, more and more people are coming to understand that an endless currency of affluence is accessible to everyone. It is how we think, feel and behave that makes the difference whether or not we experience the affluence available to us.

The following are 7 great ways to allow the currency of affluence to flow through us: 

(1) Asking powerful questions and receiving powerful answers. Notice how the following question is stated in the form of receiving the answer as the actual experience we want: “What is the nature of experiencing the currency of affluence flowing from my inside out?”

(2) Letting energy circulate freely through our bodies. Asking ourselves of we are stagnant or allowing a free flow of energy to circulate through us? Movement expands the space for changing how we think, feel and take action in our lives. Bradford Keeney’s book, “Shaking Medicine” is great testament to how movement has restored wellness and true affluence throughout human history.

(3) Admitting there is no secret. Acknowledging that deep inside we know the truth. We have the power to make changes in our lives. We can start by ask ourselves questions such as: “What is the nature of experiencing myself as sufficient enough to realize what I want in life?” Lynn Twist’s book, The Soul of Money, is a wonderful resource for discovering the truth of our sufficiency to be affluent.

(4) Exploring the unconscious habitual impulses of our personality. Instead of defending ourselves, we can embrace the thoughts, feelings and behaviors that perpetuate our lack of affluence. Our inner guidance system can introduce us to fresh approaches for becoming aware of whatever is holding us back. A wonderful the book, The Wisdom of the Enneagram, can help us see and resolve many of the details of how we resist, deny and deceive ourselves. Seeing ourselves so clearly may feel uncomfortable at first, and if we hang in there, we can see the humor in it all

(5) Conjuring up the bodily felt sense of how it feels to be affluent. Imagining how it would feel to be affluent with the currency of affluence moving through us. Allowing ourselves to bring forth a wonderful sense of well being, with new ideas and solutions flowing effortlessly into our lives.

(6)  Cultivating a network of people who we can call upon when we want support. Creating affluence with influence. We probably already have friends, neighbors, business associates and acquaintances who we have influence with. When you meet or see one of them, discover if  there is any way you can be supportive.

(7) Having affluent conversations with ourselves. Appreciating the affluence that is already present in our lives. Acknowledging that our lives are always changing and talking to ourselves from an affluent point of view. Noticing if our conversations with ourselves are about what is missing or how we are excited about opening the flood gates to all the possibilities that are available to us.

(8) Willingness. Willingness is the art of suspending thoughts, feelings and any holding back we feel in our bodies. It is the art of allowing something new to happen. A good 10 seconds of pure willingness can get the ball rolling!

To the power of allowing affluent currency to move through us,

Crystal Presence


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The Elusiveness of Unconditionally Loving Ourselves

September 8, 2016


The ability to be unconditionally loving with ourselves can be elusive at times. Being unconditionally loving with ourselves means freely accepting and allowing ourselves to have the lives we want, no matter what our condition. Being conditional, however, means imposing conditions on ourselves in order to allow and feel worthy enough to have the lives we want.

We strive to be unconditionally loving with ourselves, yet find ourselves like a fish in water. We fool ourselves into thinking we are being unconditional only to discover that we are swimming in a sea of conditional thoughts and feelings.

The question is, “Why would we fool ourselves into thinking we are being unconditional? 

Think about it…

Many people hold back as a way to maintain the delusion that their lives are under control. Putting conditions on themselves is the perfect way to maintain that fantasy (as described so well by Robert Firestone in his well respected book called “The Fantasy Bond”). Conditions are a way to maintain the status quo and avoid taking full responsibility for our lives.

The following are some of the elusive ways we hold back using certain conditions…

  • Deluding ourselves that we can only be happy, free and positive under certain conditions.
  • Holding on to conditions from our past as in ”If only I had made different choices back then I would be able to unconditionally love myself today”.
  • Holding on to future conditions as in “My parents had that condition so I will have that condition too.”.
  • Holding onto present conditions by comparing ourselves as in “I need to compare myself with successful people so I can imitate them or use them to decide whether or not I am worthy enough to have the life I want”.
  • Believing that we must be a fully unconditionally loving person as a condition on whether or not we can unconditionally love ourselves.
  • Needing proof that letting go of our present condition is the best thing to do before we are sure the next condition is better.
  • Being nice, conforming, accommodating or unimposing as conditions to be loved.
  • Being right as a condition that we may be holding onto after years of being tested and graded on whether or not we are able to get the right answers!.
  • Holding on to pain, struggle and conflict as a condition to fit into the agreement field of mass consciousness.

The culture we live in also has it’s own set conditions for being loved. The following are a few of the most common cultural conditions we might be imposing upon ourselves. “To love myself I must be…

  • Successful
  • Hard working
  • Smart
  • In service to others
  • Self sacrificing

Needless to say, being unconditional can be challenging, confusing and elusive at times.

A man once stood up at large gathering where the Dahli Llama was speaking. The man said he was having a hard time overcoming his habit of being judgmental. Being judgmental made him wonder if it would ever be possible for him to be unconditionally loving with himself or others. The Dahli Llama laughed and said, “Everyone sees the truth and it doesn’t mean we are judgmental or being conditional with our love. Seeing the truth of things is natural. Whether or not we are being judgmental or conditional is all about what we do with what we see.

Think about it…

Most of us have been seen by someone who assumes that there is essentially something wrong with us, leaving us feeling shamed and bad for our condition. We also have had experiences of the truth being seen by someone who radiates the wonderful feeling of loving us, no matter what our condition.

THE GOOD NEWS IS:  We can cultivate the ability to be unconditionally loving. It helps to know that the source of our lives has only love and appreciation for who we are, no matter what our condition. Nothing we can do or say will ever change the abundance of that love. We might as well forget about trying to control ourselves into the perfect condition that we think we should have to unconditionally love ourselves.

At a certain point in our evolution we all have to face the truth. The truth that we are unconditionally loving energy beings, have been and always will be. And even if we hold back (control, manipulate, resist or rebel), sooner or later our source will have it’s way with us. Source will ultimately find the way to support and guide us into unconditionally loving ourselves and others.

Our mission, if we decide to take it, is to remember that the lives we want are always available to us. In each and every moment, we have the power to decide whether or not to use a condition to hold us back.

To the power of unconditionality,


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Self Esteem for Kids, Adults Too!

September 1, 2015


A wonderful quote about “Self Esteem” for children…

“Every action your children make is an attempt to meet their needs.

This is true whether or not the behavior is successful at meeting their needs.

This is true whether or not the behavior is acceptable.”

A child who picks fights with their siblings, shows off in an obnoxious way,
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It might be more attention or less pressure or more challenge.
Sometimes you can simply ask your children
if they have any suggestions about how a problem could be solved.
You might be surprised at the creativity of their solutions.
By just making your children part of the process,
you will change their prospective about the problem
and make them more interested in solving it.
Another way to involve a child in problem-solving process is through a family “brainstorming” meeting”
 Thank you, Mathew McKay and Patrick Fanning, authors of “Self Esteem”.
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Greet Your Guilt

June 27, 2015


People ask me, “How do I let go of the guilt I have?”

I say, “Well, first describe to me what guilt is for you. say: “Guilt is doing something wrong.”

 I say:  “Doing something wrong is a behavior, right?”

They say:  “Yes.'”

I say:  “Okay, now describe how guilt feels to you.”

They say:  “It’s a mucky feeling in my gut”

I say:  “Describe the feeling,”

They say: “Tight, stuck and miserable.”

I say: “Point to where you feel it the most.”

They say:  “Right here.”

I say :  “How did it get there?”

They say:  “I guess, I put it there.”

I say: “How?”

They say:  “Tightening up around my chest and stomach.”

I say: “And then what happens when you’re tight and constricted inside?”

They say:  “I feel terrible”

I say:  “Is feeling terrible something you deserve? Is it a punishment for something you did?”

They say: “Yes, I hadn’t thought of it that way.”

I say:  “Would you rather be feeling miserable and guilty…or  creating resolution?”

They say: “ Resolution of course! But how do I get rid of that terrible feeling of guilt?”

I say:  First of all, trying to “get rid of” it doesn’t work.

What does work is…

  • Admit and greet the guilt.
  • Embrace it.
  • Breathe into it.
  • Talk to it.
  • Move and circulate the energy in and out of it.
  • Vibrate into it.
  • Let it know you won’t abandon it.
  • Let it talk to you, and keep conversation going back and forth between you and your guilt.
  • Express and feel the guilt…
  • Let any shame vibrate and move through you.
  • Let it move and circulate.
  • Be willing…
  • Let go of  holding on inside.
  • Allow the guilt to dissolve, resolve and evolve.
  • Be willing…
  • Freedom is closer than you think! 

Admitting and feeling the guilt can be overwhelming at first…

and if you’re willing to embrace, vibrate and stay with the feeling

 all the way through…

I guarantee you’ll  find a loving, forgiving place inside.

Suddenly you’ll remember you’re a loving person, ready to learn from your experience.  

You will have literally let go of the holding back…

and are ready to apologize to yourself, and whoever else is involved.. (either in person or telepathically.


The part of you that was holding guilt in place…

is free now…

Free to be the part of you who reminds you…

to accept, love and embrace all your experiences,

no matter what the evidence.

To embracing guilt and setting yourself free.

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Are You Really Willing?

June 20, 2015


 “How do I know if I’m all the way willing or not?”

My answer is always the same, “You just know, you can feel it.”

Ask yourself this question: “What’s the nature of experiencing willingness?”

Quick Story:

Years ago I was invited to speak at a Peace Conference.

When the co-ordinator asked what

the title of the my presentation was said,

“Why People Hold Back From Peace”.

She stared at me with a surprised look on her face,

then suddenly smiled and said, “I get it, we all need to address this!”

The point of the story is, you are not alone in secretly being unwilling at times.

We all face many of the same day to day challenges

and sometimes find ourselves unwilling to

actually make the changes we say we want.

Willingness is one of the most essential skills for creating the freedom you say you want.

Willingness is the ability to suspend your thoughts

while bringing forth the bodily felt sense of openness to something new.

It takes a suspension of  wherever you are physically,

emotionally and mentally “holding back”.

Willingness creates a crack to allow something new.

It is a  letting go of any static perception of “how things are”,

while releasing tension in your body,

long enough for a shift to happen.

Make sense?

And the wonderful thing is,

even if you open a willing space for at least 10 seconds,

it works!

Yep, a full 10 seconds of suspending the way you have been “holding” things,

will get the ball rolling!

Ten seconds of 100% willingness, not 99.99%,

will open enough of a crack to allow something new!

Believe me, it works so well you may not even notice what’s happening.

Have you ever experienced that?

You wanted something in your life,

made the decision and were willing…

and one day you suddenly you realize what you wanted is happening?

It’s true, when you’re truly willing,

and release the grip on what’s holding you back,

you can wake up one morning and with…

• A new attitude

• Support coming in from all  directions.

• Evidence of change surrounding you.

• Knowing your dream’s are coming true.

You may still be wondering, “How do I know when I’m at 100% willingness?”

It’s funny when I think of all the things I tried to answer that  to question:

  • Walked with focused intention on the country roads
  • Breathed into my intentions.
  • Hung upside down on my couch to  change my way of looking at things.
  • Screamed into pillows, hit pillows and danced
  • Spent hours in nature
  • Did everything I could think of to shift my energy.

All of those things helped, but it wasn’t until

I discovered the “unwilling” part, did things start to change.

Here’s what I learned:

Willingness lives inside us, and we feel and know whether we are willing or not. Our bodies know if we’re holding back.

THE GOOD NEWS IS: Once you admit you’re unwilling, you can shift it!

Some tips on how to be willingness include:

  • Admit where you are.
  • Rate your willingness on a scale from 1-100% willing. it’s fine wherever you are, as long as you’re willing to admit where you are in the process, you’ll keep making headway.
  •  Embrace the part that feels unwilling.
  • Breathe into it.
  • Let the unwillingness know that you’re not going to push it away again, or pretend that it’s not there.
  • Let the unwillingness talk to you, and tell you how it feels to be holding back.
  • Talk back and forth until you feel your connection and love for the unwillingness that has been dutifully holding back for you.
  • Keep breathing into it.
  • Let your energy move and circulate around it, as you let go of the grip you’ve had around it.
  • Allow the unwillingness to gently  dissolve, resolve and evolve into willingness.

Notice what happens, and even if you tighten up again,

you’ve created a crack!

A crack to let go into, a doorway for something new to happen.

Willingness is the decision to slip through the crack.

Remember, it’s fine wherever you are.

You’ll keep moving forward as long as you’re 

willing to admit where you are in the process.

In other words…

If I asked you right now: “How willing are you?“.

You might say: “Well Crystal, I think I’m at about 45%”.

I’d say:  “Great! That’s a good start and it means you know what I’m taking about. 

Your openness to explore and admit the truth is where it all begins! 

 Keep checking in with yourself and get reference points on

when you feel the most willingness and

keep expanding on that. 

 Remember, wherever you are in your experience is fine, 

keep embracing whatever you find

and your body will start getting the message 

that willingness is what you want. 

You’re opening  new pathways…

You’re breaking the habit of unwillingness,

and need some time to go thru the withdrawal from holding back.

No amount of convincing will ever get someone to be willing.

It only happens when you’re ready.

Ready to give your consent.

Ready to end the holding back…releasing reluctance and resistance.

With intent for willingness to flow freely,


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Who is “Resisto”?

June 4, 2015


Kid's FAC In=mages_0005-3“Resisto” is an endearing name the children in my life used for describing resistance to the love and fun that’s always available in any given moment.

The image to the right is from a children’s manual

I made for a 2 day children’s experience where

the children were introduced to “resisto”.

They giggled and easily understood who he was.

Have you ever noticed yourself resisting love?

Have you ever wondered if resisting love is inherent in the human condition?

Is resisting love, “just how life is”?

Good questions!

Some deeper questions might be:

  • How am I selecting situations perpetuating resistance to love?
  • How am I distorting things to prove it’s not safe t0 open to love?
  • How am provoking the people in my life so they avoid loving me ?

Allowing love seems to be a challenge we all face at one time or another. 

Have you ever found yourself :

  • Wallowing in self pity because someone isn’t loving you the way you think they should?
  • Wondering why others seem to be getting all the love and you aren’t?
  • Complaining, criticizing, shaming, guilt tripping, and not loving yourself?
  • Wishing that you lived in a more loving home situation?
  • Wanting to be part of a more loving world?

Well, I’ve spent plenty of time doing that and things changed

one day when I heard someone say,

“Why would anyone love you, if you aren’t  loving yourself?”

I thought to myself, “Good point!”

I immediately remembered how much I whined and fussed

about not having the love  I said I wanted.

Dang, I was blaming everyone on the outside

when it was really an inside job!

Needless to say, a passion was ignited in me to

discover how I could truly love myself, no matter what the evidence.

It was then that I made the decision to

accomplish what seemed like an almost impossible feat for me,

letting go of resistance to loving myself.

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Sustainable People Creating a Sustainable World

May 29, 2015


You may be wondering what I mean by “sustainable people.”

The definition of “sustainabe” in Wikipedia includes:

  • “The capacity to endure.”
  • “How biological systems remain diverse and productive over time. For humans it’s the potential for long term maintenance of well being, which in turn depends on the maintenance of the natural world and natural resources.”

With everything we’re hearing about the need to support the sustainability of our planet, I rarely hear about how we can cultivate a sustainability that radiates from our insides out. 

From my perspective, sustainability begins within each one of us, and if you really want to restore the sustainability of our planet, you need to look at how to be sustainable from your inside out.

 If you’re still wondering what I’m talking about, or wondering how to do it, start by asking yourself the following questions:

(1) How am I treating my planet in the very same way that I am treating myself?

  • How am I exhausting the resources of my body?
  • How am polluting myself?
  • How am I ignoring my own wants and needs?
  • How am I using myself like a machine that I will take care of sometime in the future? 

(2) Am I being part of the resolution or am I part of the problem?

  • Am I someone who makes a problem out of the solution?
  • Am I bringing resolution to the relationship I have with myself, or am I pushing my issues out and pointing my fingers at other people?
  • Am I asking how I can be part of the resolution, or do I use problems to drain my energy and the energy of the people around me?

 (3) Am I remembering that I have nucleus effect? That the choices that I make my choices have effect on everyone and everything around me? 

  • Am I taking 100% responsibility for the issues in my life, and issues I see in the world?
  • Am I making choices for myself that support my experience of sustainable health, sustainable relationship and sustainable abundance?
  • Am I willing to observe myself and the others around me to acknowledge the effect that I am having on myself and others?

(4)  Am I willing to ask myself these following two questions and allow myself to listen for the answers?

  • What is the nature of experiencing sustainability from my inside out?
  • What is the nature of experiencing sustainability as an integral way of life in the world?

Becoming a sustainable person requires:

  • Embracing sustainability as a natural aspect of your being, and the world around you.
  • Renewing your energy by staying rested and using our personal energy wisely.
  • Giving your body what it needs, including  food, water, air and movement.
  • Listening to your emotions and not pushing them away to “get things done”.
  • Following your heart and doing the things that you love.
  • Allowing the bodily felt sense of love to move through you.
  • Connecting with yourself and the mysteries of life.
  • Taking quiet meditative time to listen to your inherent knowledge, and allowing it to guide you in being sustainable from your inside out.
  • Being present for the opportunities that are yours to be part of the resolution

These are the kinds of questions that lead to a sustainable kind of wellness, a whole being wellness that allows you to feel  connected, energized, empowered and free. 

To being part of the resolution,




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Thoughts on Giving and Receiving Throughout the Holidays

December 14, 2014


Thoughts on living in an integral universe that is in a constant state of giving and receiving.

A time to  remember that what we give and receive touches everyone and everything in some way.

A wonderful question to ask yourself about giving and receiving as you enjoy the holidays:

  • What is the nature of experiencing giving and receiving in the most beneficial, loving, nurturing and empowering ways possible?

You might be thinking,”How can I bring more awareness and purpose into what I am giving and receiving this holiday?

This short exercise may help you to answer that question:


  • Close your eyes.
  • Take a deep breath in.
  • Be aware of your existence in space.
  • What you are giving and receiving by just being here?
  • Notice the air that you are breathing and giving to your lungs, which gives oxygenated blood to your heart…and is given and received throughout all of your body.
  • Notice oxygen you receive from the trees, and the carbon dioxide you give back to the world when you breathe out.
  • Notice the energy that you are giving just by being alive sharing the essence of your being, and receiving the essence of the beings that surround you.
  • Notice the thoughts you give and receiving.

What else are you giving and receiving?

Open your eyes, and ask yourself, “What am I learning ?”

Think about it?

Science is showing us that there is no place that we are disconnected or separate from anything or anyone.

We are literally all connected!

There is no such thing as being separate.

There are molecules of air and particles of energy that connect us even though they are not visible with our eyes.

If you are like me, sometimes the truth of that is hard to imagine.

And then I think about how all the cells in my body are connected:

  • Each of your cells has it’s own unique purpose, which allows you body to function in all the ways it does.
  • And each of your cells has it’s own boundaries, it’s own cell walls, to keep the integrity of itself  intact.
  • Each of these cells is totally interconnected and nowhere is it separate from the whole of your body.
  • And all of us are cells of the bigger Whole that we are interconnected and inseparable from.

Look at these two hands with that in mind.

Giving to the whole universe can be as simple as reaching out and taking someone’s hand.

Awesome, isn’t it?

Imagine all the things you could be giving!

Here are some ideas that just came to my mind:

  • Support
  • Time and energy
  • Participation
  • Reference points
  • Education
  • Encouragement
  • Ideas
  • Gratitude
  • Appreciation
  • Birth
  • Silence
  • Sounds
  • Music
  • Contribution
  • Enjoyment
  • Thoughts
  • Inspiration
  • Stories
  • Forgiveness
  • Love
  • Experiences
  • Dancing
  • Opportunities
  • Feedback
  • Laughter

Be outrageous and write down everything and anything else that you can think of.

Think of all the strengths you have…

You may be surprised at all the things you are good at can give and receive from others!

Get clear on what to give by asking yourself these questions :

  • What do my friends and neighbor think my strengths are? (go ahead and ask them!)
  • What do people look to me for?
  • What do they get from just knowing me?
  • What do people like about being in relationship with me?
  • What do I love to do?
  • What ideas do I have?
  • What have I mastered? (It can be as simple as mastering how to tie a bow!)
  • What things that I’ve learned that I could share along the way?
  • What skills and talents I donate that will make a difference?
  • What inspires me?
  • What hobbies can I draw from?
  • What would I like to tell the world about.

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To the power of your giving and receiving,




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My answer to, “What’s the most important thing that you have learned about life?”

October 26, 2014


My answer to the question, “What’s the most important thing that I you have learned about life?”is, “Life has never been what I expected it to be, and once I learned how to ‘let go’, life has continued to turn out better than expected!”

And if you are anything like me, “letting go” is not as easy as you may want it to be. “Letting go” takes a lot of commitment and requires time and effort to cultivate a lifestyle that includes self observation, conscious choosing and a willingness to keep your energy moving and circulating… from the inside out.

Think about it….

Have you ever had someone say, “Oh, just let go”, when you were struggling inside?  And you thought to yourself, “Great idea, but how do I do that!???”

Well, I sure did! And to my dismay, people told me that a lot. I could hear what they were saying… and I definitely had my rational mind on board.  And my body wasn’t coming along… I still felt uptight and couldn’t relax without walking, running, hiking for miles, crying for hours or drinking alcohol.  And I was constantly wondering, “What’s wrong with me?”

One day I made the decision to take the leap. I started reading every self-help books , learned how to meditate, changed beliefs, moved my energy and engaged in many popular modalities of healing.

And even with all of that, I still wasn’t getting “to the core of it”.  I found myself thinking that “uptight” was simply “how I am”and there was nothing I could do about it.

If you relate to this in any way, I promise you that there absolutely is something you can do about it… more than just the “hope” that you can change it!

“Letting go” is a natural ability that you have.  Your being knows exactly how to open up to  the wonderful life that’s yours to have.  “Freedom at the Core” is based on everything I’ve  learned about on how to allow this to happen for you.  I’d love to share with you what I’ve learned over the past 40 years of exploring, discovering and sharing within myself and hundreds of other people from all over the world.

If you are interested in hearing more, enter your name and email address on the right side of this page and I will send you an introduction to Freedom at the Core.  I also invite you to experience a FREE 30 minute consultation with me where  you can ask me any questions you have…and possibly explore working with me one-to-one or taking my online course.

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I look forward to connecting with you.

To having the most wonderful life possible,



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