Archive | April, 2017

Disengaging the Addictive Control in an Addicted Society

April 18, 2017


We know we are in the biggest shift in human consciousness. We strive to be part of the resolution, yet with all our good intentions we find ourselves repeating what we know is part of the problem. We find ourselves engaging in our old controlling and addictive ways of thinking, feeling and behaving. When we get honest with ourselves, we admit to the voice inside telling us we are lying as a way to tolerate our lives.

We love the idea of letting go and going with the flow. At the same time we fear that our lives will fall apart and we will end up alone and die if we disengage from the addictive control.

Control has become the culturally acceptable way of dealing with our feelings of powerlessness. We sense the pervasiveness of how it affects our lives and our world. We look for pathways to create a new context of living and know we will be happier and healthier when we can do the following…

  • Remain present and honest with ourselves.
  • Admit when the jobs we have are not right for us.
  • Spend our days doing the things we love to do.
  • Spend more time with the people we love.
  • Take better care of ourselves.
  • Let go thinking what we should do and allow ourselves to follow our internal guidance system.

Ann Wilson Schaef author of “When Society Becomes an Addict” says, “Not only does our society invite addiction, it requires addiction to tolerate the society we have created”.

Addiction is how we distract, control and disconnect ourselves from the truth of what we are really thinking, feeling and doing. When we feel powerlessness to stop the addiction, we are tempted to lie about it. Whether it is an ingestive addiction (drugs, nicotine, alcohol, etc) or a process addiction (obsessive thinking, worrying, self generated feelings, money etc), addiction interferes with our natural life processes. It interferes with our thinking, feeling and internal guidance system that is our natural way of knowing what is good for us.

The following are how addictions erode our connection with ourselves and others:

  • Dishonesty: Lying to ourselves and others.
  • Self Centeredness:  Thinking, feeling and behaving in ways that are motivated out of our need to control everyone and everything. Believing that others are either for or against us.
  • Illusion of Control. Thinking can be in control of everyone and everything.

Notice how these very same addictive choices are rampant in our politics, media, education, corporations, medical institutions and other aspects of our society. Most of us can relate to this, yet find it elusive to grasp the subtle and pervasive ways that addiction has a grip on us. We wonder how to know if we are addicted. The simplest answer is that we know.

Intimacy with ourselves is the key to disengaging from the addictive control. People fear that letting go of addiction will be hard. The truth, however, is that trying to keep everything under control is the hardest and most destructive thing we can do to ourselves.  Disengaging from the addictive control is one of the easiest most natural things we can do.

The following are some of the ways we can disengage and free ourselves from the addictive control…

  • Cultivate the awareness that we are literally connected to all that is.
  • Realize that we are vast multidimensional beings connected to the loving source that is creating us.
  • Admit and feel any powerlessness.
  • Engage in enjoyable movement to keep our energy flowing and open to change.
  • Spend time with ourselves.
  • Let go of thinking that life is static and it is our responsibility to get it under control.
  • Become aware of any addictive control plans we use to keep selecting, distorting and provoking our reality so we can prove to ourselves that we need to stay in addictive control to survive.
  • Release ourselves and others as objects that need to be controlled and fixed.
  • Let go of any addictive intellectual constructs, methodologies, interpretations, rational or logical constructs that keep us fixated in an old context of living.
  • Connect with our internal guidance system to find the way to what is best for us.
  • Let go of trying to be perfect, right and done.
  • Allow our life process to unfold and reveal itself in the perfect time, place and form.
  • Surround ourselves others who want to join us in the journey.
  • Be aware of the withdrawal experience. Keep our energy moving to allow space for the old habits to dissolve, resolve and evolve.
  • Receive our power to co-create with our loving source the lives of joy, creativity, fun, ease, abundance and wellness we want.

To Freedom,



Continue reading...

From Fixation to Living in Freedom

April 13, 2017


Freedom is referred to as the power to think, feel or act without restraint. People often restrict their freedom by fixating their attention, feelings and behaviors on someone or something. Fixating is a way to distract and avoid the truth of what is really happening. We go from feeling happy and free to feeling miserable and restricted.

It is not uncommon to hear people say, “If only that person were different I would feel happy and free.” Most people have at least one person who annoys, bugs or hooks them into fixating in some way.

A good example is Fixation Fanny who is particularly fixated on her co-worker, Julie. Fanny thinks Julie is self important. Fanny gets a “disgust fix” every time she thinks about Julie. Fanny then moves to another city and is glad she will never see Julie again. She soon meets Larry at her new job. Larry likes to tell sarcastic jokes which is a perfect reason for Fanny to fixate and carry on with her habitual disgust fixes.

Fixation takes an enormous amount of energy and drains our power to be creative and expand our consciousness. The most common fixations are guilt, stress, suffering and feeling barely alive. Fixations make our lives feel like a burdensome task while waiting for the impending experience called death.

Sorcerer-seers such as Don Juan and Carlos Castaneda have referred to our ability to shift between difference states of consciousness as “shifting the assemblage point”. Generation after generation of fixating at any certain assemblage point makes it feel that there is only one “real world”. Don Juan referred to this phenomena as “the “modality of the time”. A modality is held together by a mass agreement field, both verbal and telepathic, our belief systems and judgements.

A good example is guilt. Notice what happens when we feel guilty. Our breathing becomes shallow and we fixate our energy. If the guilt is about our children, they see us fixated in guilt when we look at them. It starts a process of wondering about what’s so wrong about them that their parent feels so guilty about them. This is the classic of example of the how the assemblage point of guilt is passed on generation to generation.

The good news is that we have the power to shift our assemblage points to a place of freedom, love, pleasure, joy and full aliveness. A great question to ask ourselves is: What is nature of experiencing freedom from my inside out?

Noticing when we are fixated can be illusive. It seems normal to be having a wonderful day and suddenly without even noticing it, we slow down our breathing and begin to feel out of sorts with ourselves. We start to wonder what is wrong with us and look for ways to get back to our happy day. Most of us can relate to the classic behavior heading to the refrigerator to find that special something that will fix the way we feel.

The following are great examples of how we can go from a sense of happy and free to feeling restricted and unhappy.

  • Having a delicious meal to fixating in guilt about eating it.
  • Happy mode to complaining mode.
  • Self content to conjuring up something to worry about.
  • Relaxed to fixating on pushing ourselves to exhaustion..
  • Loving ourselves to fixating on criticism.
  • Happy to fixating on something to be angry about.
  • Equanimity to fixating on self generated feelings.
  • Ease to fixating on the bad news in the media.
  • Ease to fixating on sad love songs.
  • Fun conversation to fixating on trying to convince.
  • Great fun day to fixating about all the things we should be doing.
  • Being abundant to fixating on what we do not have.

The following are some of the quickest ways we can go from fixation to living in freedom…

  • Breathe!
  • Get our energy moving!
  • What could we be doing if we were not using my energy to fixate?
  • Do something we enjoy.
  • Take action on our creative ideas.
  • Reach out and connect with someone we trust.
  • Love yourself, no matter what the evidence.
  • Think, feel and do things that make us laugh about ourselves.
  • Think about  things we enjoy and respect about ourselves.
  • If our blood sugar is low get something to eat.
  • Rest if you are tired.
  • Release fixated beliefs like “This is how life is” and “This is the way I am”.
  • Allow withdrawal from our old fixated continuity.
  • Expand beyond our upper limits of what we think reality is.

To our freedom,



Continue reading...