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Getting Clear on Your Purpose

February 23, 2013


Getting clear on the power of purpose is the key to bringing passion, inspiration and more freedom into your life.

Think about it:

How would it feel to wake up every morning feeling excited, inspired, and looking forward to everything you are going to do that day?

That’s the power that  your purpose can have!

To get clear on your purpose ask yourself these questions:

  • What is the nature of experiencing the purpose that aligns with my essence?
  • What is the nature of experiencing my purpose as the guiding principle in my life?
  • What is the nature of expressing my purpose through beneficial giving and receiving?

Powerful questions give powerful answers… so be watching and listening carefully.

Answers appear in many mysterious and inspiring ways!

For example, they may appear as:

  • A phrase in a story that you are reading may suddenly stand out to you.
  • A phrase or a picture on a billboard may pop out to you as you’re driving down the road.
  • You may overhear someone’s conversation and it grabs your attention
  • You are giving or receiving something and you have a new and enhanced experience!

Now for some interesting scientific research about purpose:

Research has identified these three types of  happiness:  pleasure, passion and purpose.

Read all three of these, and you’ll understand more about the power of having a purpose.

(1) Pleasure is:

  • A wonderful state of feeling pleased or gratified.
  • A sought out experience that comes and goes in relatively short bursts.
  • An experience that is short lived…and leaves you wanting more! (i.e. in the midst of a pleasurable experience having your mind start to wander…wishing that the pleasure would never end and that it just keep going on and on).
Unfortunately, the quest for more and more pleasure can often become a full time occupation.
Check it out… almost all of the advertising you see is about how to get more and more pleasure… more toys, more deliciousness, more sex, more entertainment, more, more, more!
Pursuing more and more pleasure has turned out to be an addictive lifestyle for much of our culture.

 (2) Passion is:

  • A powerful emotion that comes along with loving what you are doing, and feeling alive!
  • Passion lasts longer than pleasure, and yet still tends to fade away leaving you wondering…
  • “Where did my passion it go?
  • “Is this all there is to life?
  •  “Why am I here?”

(3) Purpose

  • Is sustainable!
  • It provides a foundation for all of your experiences
  • it permeates your life with joy and inspiration!
  • It includes both pleasure and passion, and yet there is no need to keep seeking, looking, or longing for what will make you happy.
  • Having purpose gives you a foundation for feeling alive and in sync with something greater in life.
  • Purpose is not all about what pleasures you can satisfy or what you can “get out of it” …it’s about giving and receiving in the contribution to others!
  • Having purpose, and taking action on that purpose, determines the quality and satisfaction in your life.
  • Purpose is something that you discover within yourself, and has a wonderfully anticipated outcome that guides your actions.
  • When you have purpose, you think about the choices you make in a new way. It keeps you deciding if the choice you are making is worth the time and investment. It keeps you steady on your path.
  • You’ll be asking yourself if your choices are supporting your purpose, or if will it cause you to loose momentum.
  • Purpose gives you a sustainable kind of happiness!

 Now,  just for fun,  see if you can guess who wrote this:

“A still, small voice inside me, really more a feeling than a voice, said, ‘This will not be your life. Your life will be more than hanging clothes on a line.’

The certainty of that divine assurance got me through many a difficult moment during my growing years.

I wanted to be a teacher. And to be known for inspiring my students to be more than they thought they could be. I never imagined it would be on TV.

I believe there’s a calling for all of us. I know that every human being has value and purpose. The real work of our lives is to become aware. And awakened, to answer the call”

It’s Oprah!

She was listening to that small voice inside and made step by step choices to take action on them.

 Now ask yourself this:

Have you ever felt like…

  • A small boat in the ocean on a very dark night…with no lighthouse in sight to guide you to the land?
  • Lost without a map…with no clear direction or sense of where you are going?

Sound familiar?

If so, would you like to change that?

Here a few exercises that can support you in finding your lighthouse and map.

Remember that you are in the discovery process that will keep evolving.

For instance, you might think that your purpose is to save money to buy your own house.

And then somewhere down the line, you discover that’s only part of your purpose…and you suddenly  find yourself going down another road…an inspiration to understand why people are homelessness.   And suddenly your life takes a turn and  you have become a catalyst for eliminating homelessness in the world!

So keep yourself in a state of wonder and curiosity…looking around in your world and noticing what is calls you to action!

Thoughts on what your purpose might include:

  • Having your own home
  • Raising a family in a wonderful way
  • Traveling the world
  • Spending time with the people that you love
  • Starting a business of your own
  • Overcoming a challenge
  • Having the ultimate adventure
  • Discovering something new
  • Experiencing the nature of freedom
  • Being a catalyst for beneficial change
  • Understanding yourself and helping others to do the same
  • Learning to have compassion
  • Reaching your highest potential
  • Being in service to others
  • Teaching children
  • Experiencing enlightenment
  • Writing a book
  • Becoming a master in something you love
Remember, we are all very unique individuals that are born to “do our thing”.
So get on out there… and do” it”… so the rest of us can enjoy it!

And here are some simple exercises for springboarding yourself into getting clear on your purpose:

Exercise #1:

  • Get out a piece of paper
  • Draw a small circle in the middle of the paper…and put the word “ME” inside it.
  • Then start thinking about what you love about life… your inspirations, your challenges, you interests, skills, talents, desires, strengths and weaknesses…and everything else you can think of that occupies your life!
  • Jot them down around the center that says “ME”.
  • Keep jotting down words and phrases…while you keep filling up the paper with more and more thoughts about YOU!
  • Now stand back and look at the page.
  • What stands out to you?
  • Identify your strengths…and your weaknesses…inspirations… and challenges.
  • Whatever stands out to you is fine… even the things that you may not be liking about yourself.
  • Remember…even the most uncomfortable things in your life can become the very thing that you share about..and how you brought resolution to that area of your life.  Most likely, many others have had that same challenge…and would love to hear about how you resolved it…and about your process that keeps evolving.
  • Now, ask yourself this question: “If I was writing a song, and looking at this paper, what do I think the theme of my song would be?
  • What theme would you choose to if you knew your song was going to be played to the whole world?
  • What would the world learn from your song?
  • How would your song inspire the world?
  • How would your song make a difference in world?
  • Who would feel nurtured and changed by your song?
  • What would you be giving the world with your song?
  • What would you receive by giving this song?

Whatever you are thinking, feeling, and experiencing right now…write it down!

Let your thoughts keep moving and evolving!

It’s fine if your purpose isn’t totally clear to you right now.  Your intention for clarity is with you…so your purpose is well on the way!

Exercise #2:

  • Start by read this quote: “You were born with an inner guidance system that tells you when you are on or off purpose by the amount of joy you are experiencing. The things that bring you the greatest joy are in alignment with your purpose” (on “finding your purpose” by Jack Canfield , America’s Success Coach and co-founder of Chicken Soup for the Soul)
  • Now write down what you consider to be two of your greatest strengths (for example, creativity and enthusiasm)
  • And write down how you use those strengths (for example, to support and to inspire).
  • Now imagine what you think would be a perfect world… see it, smell it, listen to it,  and get in the bodily felt sense of what it would  feel like to you (for example, a wonderful place to be…harmonious, free, and full of expressions of love)
  • Combine all of what you just wrote down into a single statement.
  • For example: My purpose is to use my creativity and enthusiasm to support and inspire others to freely express their talents in a harmonious and loving way.

” With a purpose, everything in life seems to fall into place. To be ‘on purpose’ means you’re doing what you love to do, doing what you’re good at, and accomplishing what’s important to you”

Thank you Jack Canfield!

Keep writing down as much as learn about your purpose… and put it somewhere that you can see it!

Let this be your road map and lighthouse for the choices you make each and every moment.

Keep asking yourself this question,  “Is the choice I am about to make in alignment with my purpose?

And as a wonderful adventure into seeing one woman’s discovery of purpose, take a moment to watch this video:

May using these tools become an adventure that brings you more freedom and clarity on the joys of having purpose in your life ! 

I welcome any comments, questions or ideas.

With intent of discovering the freedom that comes with finding your most fulfilling purpose,


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